All About Ben

Ben has started to say "I love you" unsolicited. It is soooo great. I realize that I have not marked his milestones very well during these first years and I will certainly be sorry for that forever. He grows and changes so much each day and I thought maybe this blog would help me be better about keeping track. But it doesn't seem to make me better at it. I used to be a pretty good writer too. Where did that go?

posted by BensMom04 @ 12:09 PM 0 comments

He smiled.

He finally finally smiled for a portrait. He is 2 1/2 and he looks 4 years old. But he is so beautiful. Did I really make this lovely being? I can't ever believe it.

posted by BensMom04 @ 2:40 PM 0 comments

Independence


I get a lot of feedback from people about the Family Bed and his independence being related. These people theorize that Ben is overly dependent on me because he sleeps with us. I totally disagree and yet I don't argue it. Not only do I think it is wrong, I think Ben benefits from the bond that he and I share. We snuggle a whole lot. We have always had a lot of touching and I think it contributes to his intelligence. He is turning out to be a pretty smart kid. A lot of it is sure to be natural, but I believe the theory that touching a child increases the development of synapses in the brain and contributes to higher intelligence.

There is, of course, a whole other emotional thing. He likes it. We like it. We all enjoy waking up together and he has never had to 'cry it out'. I suppose he did have to at daycare, but at home, there doesn't seem to be any sense other than selfishness, in putting a kid through the sleeping alone thing before they are ready.

What's my point? Nothing I guess, I was just thinking about how great he is (like usual) and wondering about it.

posted by BensMom04 @ 8:40 AM 0 comments